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Larry Goldberg's avatar

What a wonderful recollection. The strength of America is in her immigrant families, mine included. Those who wish to segregate us between "Real Americans" and "The Other" do grave harm to the public psyche. There a few families that do not have stories of a knock on the door, a van or truck coming to take family members away in the dead of night, or the fears of an unbridled government. Many of us will have a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner, many others will not. Be thankful for our blessing, but bless those who are not as fortunate as ourselves this Thanksgiving.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Well written, Larry. Save for Native Americans, we are a nation of immigrants and their descendants. When do we understand that?

Happy Thanksgiving

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Lora Kosten's avatar

Kudos to your grandparents and parents for honoring their Italian heritage while at the same time embracing the customs and traditions of this American holiday.

Buona festa del ringraziamento,

Lora

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thanks, Lora. Their courage made it possible for us. Buon Ringraziamento

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Gregory DiZoglio's avatar

Ed that's exactly how my family did it . The children had a separate table. The menu was close to yours. Everyone was dressed up in their best clothes.

I remember those days and now I carry the torch and do the same thing

Thanks for the great memories

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thanks, Greg. I'm pleased to rekindle your memories of the beautiful day.

Buon Ringraziamento.

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Dave Markward's avatar

Ed...The smells, the togetherness, the never intended but consistently experienced over indulgence, the appreciation of our freedom and the urge to fervently and unapologetically say, "Thank you!" Let us never, ever forget the intent and raw splendor of Thanksgiving Day! You've captured it perfectly!

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thank you, David. I have not forgotten you and your marvelous book. I am reading some chapters for the second and third times. There is so much I didn't know.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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shopkat's avatar

What a wonderful read to start the week! I do believe we had the exact same meal as you, starting with antipasto, lasagna or manicotti & wedding soup, then on to the turkey and all the fixings. Then ALL the desserts you described. I also remember the men all taking a nap while the women cleaned and, somewhere around 6:00 PM it'd all come out again for sandwiches and leftover antipasto. Oh, and we sat in the "good" living room with the furniture all encase in plastic! Happy Thanksgiving!

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

I'm pleased that I rekindled your memories of the beautiful day.

Buon Ringraziamento!

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James P Crowley's avatar

I was born in the UK. My father was Irish and my mother a Scots. We came to Rhode Island when I was still a little boy. On Thanksgiving Day as well as Christmas we also had the traditional American foods like turkey and green bean casserole and heaping mounds of mashed potatoes. But we did have one not so common food: rutabagas mashed with carrots. Turned out this was because my father’s family always made this dish for any special occasion. During the Great Hunger of the Irish famine was when my forebear family decided to eat rutabagas and carrots to survive because the potato crops repeatedly had failed. They were actually ashamed to be eating the rutabagas (then called Swedes) because they were not eaten by people then but were fed to the pigs. I always enjoy eating them but I must say they haven’t caught on with recent generations!

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Interesting story, Jim. I've not had rutabagas yet.

Tradition is so important. I love it. Some accuse me of living in nostalgia. I thank them. Happy Thanksgiving

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James P Crowley's avatar

Thanks Ed for a wonderful recollection of how Italo-Americans basically greatly enhanced the experience of a typical American Thanksgiving by melding their traditional foods.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thanks, Jim. Happy Thanksgiving

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Neural Foundry's avatar

Your grandmother's willingness to embrace Thanksgiving while weaving in Italian traditons really captures what makes America special. The detail about her insisting on speaking English shows she wasn't just adapting but activly creating something new for your family. That blend of lasagna before turkey and spumoni alongside pumpkin pie sounds absolutly perfect.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

A beautiful day reflecting my grandparents' pride in being U.S. citizens. And, yes, the food was the best. Happy Thanksgiving

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Peter Voccio JR.'s avatar

Ed, thanks for sharing your beautiful thanksgiving with family and relatives. It certainly was festive and a way to be thankful to be in this beautiful country. Our family shared many of your experiences. A happy thanksgiving to you Diane and family.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Yes, thank you, Peter. And a Happy Healthy Thanksgiving to you and your Family

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Barbara Spiezio's avatar

Love this story. Happy Thanksgiving, Ed and Diane.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thank you, Barbara. Happy Thanksgiving to You, Nick, and Your Family.

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John rossomondo's avatar

Eddie, great memories. Italians are all alike. Happy Turkey Day. Good Lord willing I will see you in June, 65th reunion. JNR.

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thank you, John. Buon Ringraziamento!

See you in June . . .

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Elsie C Romano's avatar

I justrorwarded this to all four of my children! We all live in different states, but we share memories of holidays (latest group texts were about our Christmas food memories!), and this one certainly brought back beautiful memories of holidays with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins! Thank you, and happy Thanksgiving!

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

To share my story warms my heart, Elsie. Thank you.

Buon Ringraziamento.

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Joanne Lamora's avatar

Dr. Ed...Wonderful story..brings me back to my childhood years. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Thank you, Joanne. Buon Ringraziamento!

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Joanne Lamora's avatar

Grazie, e pure tu!

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Ned O’Donnell's avatar

Ed,

This is the most beautiful story you’ve written. It is the story of America. A very happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

Ned

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Ed Iannuccilli's avatar

Oh, thank you so much, Ned. A better compliment I could not have received.

Happy Thanksgiving

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Sheila Land's avatar

More wonderful memories! Such a blessing!🥰

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